I’m 22 and have been seeing this handsome 25-year-old hombre who really cares about me. He’s great except for one thing: He’s married to a 33-year-old woman with two kids. According to him, they’re having all sorts of problems. She’s horrible, never wants to spend time with him, goes off on vacation to Cancun by herself—the list goes on. Now he has invited me to go with him to Barcelona. I don’t know what to do.
—Going Loca in Texas
Dear Going Loca:
There should be a Pulitzer Prize for wife-cheating fiction. Ay, Dios mío, the amount of lame, unbelievable and plain ridiculous excuses I’ve heard in my lifetime could fill a 10-volume encyclopedia. And too many women swallow them hook, line and sinker. I’m not saying there aren’t bad wives out there who don’t love or appreciate their husbands and make their lives miserable. But that’s why divorce was invented, to get out of such ruts. A trip to beautiful Barcelona is always tempting, but what happens after? Do a realistic evaluation of the situation and decide if you want to be la otra. Otherwise, wait for him to disengage from his current commitment before embarking on any kind of journey. If he doesn’t, you can go your own way.
—Watch his nose closely, D