Dolores dice...Baby Bride

Dolores Dice

Dolores dice...Baby Bride

by Dolores | 08.20.2009 | 4:03pm | 3 Comments
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Dear Dolores:

My boyfriend is a great guy, and I truly love him. He’s my first love. I’m 16, and he’s 20 and thinking of marriage. I do really want to get married someday, but I’m also really scared. What if he stops loving me?

—Debra in CA

Dear Debra:

Nobody knows why, or when we fall in or out of love. It’s absolutely wonderful and scary and totally unpredictable. So you can’t make decisions based on what may or may not happen in his, or your, corazon down the road. However, my feelings is that you are still muy joven and perhaps not quite ready for marriage. Give yourself some time. Live a little first!

—Time is the best test of love, D

 

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3 Comments
Stardust17
09.10.2009
12:33pm
You are way too young to be thinking about marriage. You're only 16 and haven't even lived life yet. If your boyfriend loves you he will wait for you and if not they will be plenty of boyfriends coming your way. You guys are way too young 16 and he's only 20. You guys have to grow up and find out who you are, go to college and enjoy being young, you're only young ONCE. Marriage is not easy and it takes maturity dedication and respect for that other person, your in love with the idea of marriage but at 16 you really don't have the maturity to know how serious of a commitment it really is and what about if you get pregnant? Are you ready to be a parent when you're just a kid yourself? Finish your high school education, go to college, work enjoy your friends and when the time is right you will get married one day. You have all of your life to get married, have a child, etc.
CoronadoCAgirl
08.30.2009
12:53pm
Hola Debra !! wowww chica, 17 años ? ay corazón, ud lo que debería estar haciendo en estos momentos, es estudiar, divertirse con sus amigos, salir, conocer gente, trabajar y disfrutar de lo que tanto estudio, viajar, VIVIR, etc. ...y ya después de que hayas hecho todo eso, entonces casarte si es lo que deseas ! pero mi consejo es NO TE CASES ! y si lo haces, trata de no tener hijos en los primeros 5 años por lo menos, POR SI ACASO ! se que tal vez me lea negativa, pero no lo soy, creeme ! simplemente te estoy diciendo en pocas palabras que DISFRUTES TU JUVENTUD, A TUS AMIGOS, TU VIDA, ESTUDIA, SE ALGUIEN, VIAJA ... mira que esos años NO REGRESAN ! solo hay una etapa de juventud, VIVELA AL MAXIMO !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! para todo hay tiempo, y tu tiempo ahorita es para preparate para el futuro y disfrutar de tener solo 17 años ! Suerte y piensalo !!!!!!! tu estarás en tu casa lavando platos y limpiando baños, mientras las chicas de tu edad estarán en Bahamas disfrutando de su graduación de universidad !
superjazz
08.25.2009
9:09pm
Girl, all I can tell you is that there isn't anybody that will be able to change your mind once you make it up. Please know that I thought the same thing. I got married when I was 17 and he was 21 because i was stubborn and not even my family could change my mind. I wanted to make my then boyfriend happy, and not lose him. In my mind I thought he was the only boy that would want to marry me, these feelings can be overwhelming. Think about it though. DON'T do it to be allowed privileges that grown ups get, talk to your family first. If that's not it then think that if he loves you now enjoy life together with a common goal, like traveling and finishing high school and college. Not making such a large commitment. You have to be your own woman first and bring the strength and power of independence to a relationship. If not you won't have your own identity and he WILL either get bored of you or like what happened to me and control your every move. I stayed for 11 years! had 3 kids. 3 weeks after getting married he started hitting me, then 1 year later he cheated on me, soon after that I was supporting him and going to college, this was after he moved me away from my family in another state. At the end he went to prison and i was free. I moved back near my family, bought my own home, got a great job and now after 5 years alone I married a wonderful man that loves and respects me is helping raise my 3 teenage girls and is showing them real men treat thier wives with respect. You have lots to offer and don't let anyone pressure you or make you feel like they are your last chance. GOOD LUCK
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