Dear Dolores:

I haven’t dated for a long time. How should I get guys to notice me?

—Violeta on the Web

Dear Violeta:

If you just want to get noticed, try walking naked into the local hangout at the two-for-one cocktail hour. However, if you want to meet a more-or-less regular guy, first you have to come out of your wilting wallflower mode, dust off the cobwebs, focus your telescope and go hunting. Only you know what you want and where to find it in your hometown, wherever that is. You’ve got to make things happen, m’ija.

—And don’t forget to look alive, D