Dolores dice...Can't We All Just Get Along?
By Dolores | 04/05/2010 - 18:00

Dear Dolores:

There are so many Latinos from different parts of Latin America coming into this country, but I feel like we are all so separated from each other. I hear people spew hate against other people who are just like them. We might come from different countries and have different backgrounds, but here, we’re all treated the same. Why can’t we be one strong community who works together in fighting for respect and equality?

—Diana-Maria in Massachusetts

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Dolores dice...The Incredible, Invisible Boyfriend!
By Dolores | 03/18/2010 - 19:00

Dear Dolores:

I have a problem: My boyfriend of three years doesn’t act like a boyfriend. He never calls me, never takes me anywhere and never invites me to his house unless I suggest it— then he says, “Come if you want to.” Now and then, he tells me he loves me, and I know he’s told his mother in Mexico that he’s thinking of marriage. But most of the time he acts totally distant. I’ve tried talking to him, and he just says that I’m being dramatic. All I want is a straight answer from him.

 —Harta y desesperada in the Net


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Dolores dice...Dime Con Quién Andas
By Dolores | 03/11/2010 - 13:06

Dear Dolores:

I’m currently making a lot of lifestyle changes: eating healthy, exercising, quitting smoking, attending college and developing a music career. I’m troubled, though, because many of the friends I’ve had for years are still drinking, smoking, eating junk food and lacking ambition. Worst of all, although I don’t relate to them anymore, I feel myself falling back into my old habits when I’m around them. I feel like I have outgrown our friendship, but I feel bad just cutting ties with them. Am I being big-headed?  


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Dolores dice...Illegal Alien vs. Born in the U.S.A.
By Dolores | 02/25/2010 - 17:32

Dear Dolores:

I’m being haunted by a question I never thought I would be. I’m a first-generation Latina born in the U.S.A. who identifies totally with our culture but who also feels very proud to be an American. I have never felt as torn as I do today as a result of what’s happening with the “immigration issue.” You see, I have strong negative feelings about foreigners coming to the United States illegally. Am I doing an injustice to my own people?

—M&M in Cyberspace

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Dolores dice...Ooh La Latina
By Dolores | 02/19/2010 - 18:00

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Dolores dice...Red-Faced Blues
By Dolores | 02/08/2010 - 12:28

Dear Dolores:

I have a big problem. I’m super-shy. My face turns red every time a stranger talks to me—even on the phone! This has become harder since my new job requires that I deal with the public. What can I do?

—Blushing in Boulder, CO

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Dolores dice...Baggage Claim
By Dolores | 02/05/2010 - 11:42

Dear Dolores:

I am 22 years old, have never been married and do not have any children. I just got engaged to a 26-year-old man who’s loving and considerate and who has four children from a previous marriage. My family and friends tell me to choose wisely because of his child-support burden. They say this will affect our relationship and my income. Should I marry him or should I move on?

—Dani in New Mexico

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Dolores dice...The Virgin Diaries
By Dolores | 02/01/2010 - 16:00

Dear Dolores:

I'm 28 years old and still a virgin. I’ve started to ask myself whether guys cheat on me because I’m a virgin. Almost every man I’ve ever dated or been in a relationship with has turned out to be a dog. They either end up breaking up with me or cheating on me. I always get the “Well, I’d thought you’d come around” or the “I have needs” or the “But baby, don’t you see I’m doing this with her—for us!” I know that sex is important to men, but why can’t they hold out for the person they say they love? Is waiting till marriage just a fairy tale dream?


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Dolores dice...¿Habla español?
By Dolores | 01/27/2010 - 17:00

Dear Dolores:

I don’t know if I’m getting mad over nothing, but I feel uncomfortable about a non-Latina coworker who always greets me in Spanish. I don’t think she’s doing it out of kindness. Maybe she thinks I can’t speak English? Am I wrong to feel weird about her talking to me in Spanish?

—Sexy in Chicago

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Dolores dice...Waiting Game
By Dolores | 01/14/2010 - 16:00

Dear Dolores:

I’ve been dating this guy from work for some time now. We have been out in five dates … and nada. He has not made a pass at me. No kissing, no hugging, no anything. When we go out, he pays for everything and at work we e-mail each other all day long. He just asked me to accompany him to a wedding, and all my amigas say that a guy wouldn’t take you to a wedding unless he’s serious about you. But I wonder what’s the deal … Does he like me or not?

—Losing mi pacienca in California

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