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Dimelo: "My Abuela Is Obsessed With Appearances"
Dimelo: "My Abuela Is Obsessed With Appearances"
By Pauline Campos | 02/03/2014 - 11:28

Dear Pauline,

My Colombian grandma grew up in a very looks-obsessed culture, which I'm pretty sure hasn't changed too much. Just as an example, my mom recently came back from Colombia and reported that the trendy gift for quinceaneras these days is a boob job or butt augmentation! I can't fault my grandma for being so focused on appearances since its how she grew up, but I wish there was a way I could tell her to stop constantly picking on my girl cousins and me about our skin, weight, hair, etc. Especially as someone who strongly believes this mentality is horrible for women's self-esteem and empowerment, I wish I could make it stop. If I hear her say "tienes la cara muy brotada" one more time I also might explode!


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Dimelo: "We Have a Baby On The Way–And We Can't Agree On Anything!"
Dimelo: "We Have a Baby On The Way–And We Can't Agree on Anything!"
By Pauline Campos | 01/23/2014 - 14:23

My husband and I just found out we're going to have our first baby. We are very excited but I'm already stressing. He's white, I'm Latina. His family is very...opinionated.


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Dimelo: "I'm Not Sure I Can Handle My Boyfriend's Hidden Past. Should I Leave Him?"
By Pauline Campos | 12/30/2013 - 11:38

Dear Pauline,

Today I found out that my boyfriend of one year has had a lot of sexual partners (I had an idea of how many, but not THAT many!). I also found out that he has done illicit drugs, which he’s admitted to doing twice in the time we have been together. I just don't know what to do. I really do love him but should I leave him?


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Dimelo: "Is My Boyfriend’s Mom Trying to Kill Me with Her Food?"
By Pauline Campos | 12/23/2013 - 12:33

Dear Pauline,

I've come to the conclusion that my new boyfriend's mother hates me. He's invited me over for dinner on multiple occasions, and each time she has served me a meal made with nuts, to which I'm deathly allergic. She knows about my allergy—my boyfriend has reminded her time and again. On Thanksgiving, she once again extended an invitation to her home and my boyfriend practically begged me to come. I agreed, even stopping at the florist for a hostess gift. 


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Dimelo: "I'm Tired of Hiding That I'm Latina"
By Pauline Campos | 12/16/2013 - 16:15

Dear Pauline,

I am a white and Puerto Rican woman living in southern Texas. Depending on how I dress, or do my make up or hair, I can appear to be either heritage. The problem? I am afraid, almost ashamed, to show my Latina side. I used to be so proud, letting everyone know that I was both white and Latina. But now I'm scared to identify with my Puerto Rican side because of negative attention. 


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Dimelo: "He Wanted to Have Sex When We First Met. Should I Give Him Another Chance?"
By Pauline Campos | 12/02/2013 - 09:30

Dear Pauline,

I met a guy while out for my birthday with friends. Before the night was over, we’d made out, he’d asked me what I wanted for my birthday and asked me back to his place (I let him know that’s not my style). After texting each other for a week, I reminded him about his birthday offer and asked him to join me for a movie date.


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Dimelo: "Should I Leave My Boyfriend For Another Man?"
By Pauline Campos | 11/21/2013 - 14:55

Dear Pauline:

I'm 18 and my best friend is a guy. We met through Facebook and got to know each other by talking every day for two months before he asked me out. We then met in person but by then he had a girlfriend. Now he and I go to parties every weekend; we've kissed and talked about how our lives would be different if we were dating. When we had sex, I knew I loved him. The problem is I am not ready to walk away from my current relationship. Que hago?


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Streaming Shows That Will Be Your Next Addiction
5 Streaming Shows That Will Be Your Next Addiction
By Latina Staff | 11/14/2013 - 15:55

When it comes to watching shows, TV is no longer your only option! This day and age, some of the biggest hit shows are being produced just for online viewers. From Orange is the New Black to Alpha House, here are 5 streaming shows that are sure to be your next addiction:


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