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Dimelo: "Did He Break Up With Me Because I Wasn't Intimate With Him?"
Dimelo: "Did He Break Up With Me Because I Wasn't Intimate With Him?"
By Pauline Campos | 03/11/2014 - 12:18

Dear Pauline,


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Dimelo: "How Do I Get Him To Call Me His Girlfriend?"
Dimelo: "How Do I Get Him To Call Me His Girlfriend?"
By Pauline Campos | 02/28/2014 - 15:21

Dear Pauline,


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Dimelo: "Is My Boyfriend Having an Affair With My Best Friend?"
Dimelo: "Is My Boyfriend Having an Affair With My Best Friend?"
By Pauline Campos | 02/19/2014 - 12:47

Dear Pauline,

A few months ago I started receiving anonymous texts saying that my best friend and my boyfriend were messing around. At first, I ignored them, thinking it was a bad joke. But then I started thinking, and friends started talking. I heard from one friend that my best friend has mentioned her "forbidden love" for a man who is in a relationship and has a daughter, which is just like my boyfriend and me. On the same nights he "picks up shifts at work" and I call her to hang out, she says she's busy. And for some reason, two of the most important people in my life always have an excuse for not being in the same space with me at the same time. I've known my girl since we were babies. She's closer to me than my own sisters. And my boyfriend might be a jerk sometimes, but he is the father of my little girl. I don't know if I should ruin a good thing by asking questions or pretend someone isn't trying to tell me something I would rather ignore.—La Textenovela 


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Dimelo: "I'm Too Young to Feel This Old"
Dimelo: "I'm Too Young to Feel This Old"
By Pauline Campos | 02/11/2014 - 10:39

Querida P,


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Dimelo: "My Abuela Is Obsessed With Appearances"
Dimelo: "My Abuela Is Obsessed With Appearances"
By Pauline Campos | 02/03/2014 - 11:28

Dear Pauline,

My Colombian grandma grew up in a very looks-obsessed culture, which I'm pretty sure hasn't changed too much. Just as an example, my mom recently came back from Colombia and reported that the trendy gift for quinceaneras these days is a boob job or butt augmentation! I can't fault my grandma for being so focused on appearances since its how she grew up, but I wish there was a way I could tell her to stop constantly picking on my girl cousins and me about our skin, weight, hair, etc. Especially as someone who strongly believes this mentality is horrible for women's self-esteem and empowerment, I wish I could make it stop. If I hear her say "tienes la cara muy brotada" one more time I also might explode!


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Dimelo: "We Have a Baby On The Way–And We Can't Agree On Anything!"
Dimelo: "We Have a Baby On The Way–And We Can't Agree on Anything!"
By Pauline Campos | 01/23/2014 - 14:23

My husband and I just found out we're going to have our first baby. We are very excited but I'm already stressing. He's white, I'm Latina. His family is very...opinionated.


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Dimelo: "I'm Not Sure I Can Handle My Boyfriend's Hidden Past. Should I Leave Him?"
By Pauline Campos | 12/30/2013 - 11:38

Dear Pauline,

Today I found out that my boyfriend of one year has had a lot of sexual partners (I had an idea of how many, but not THAT many!). I also found out that he has done illicit drugs, which he’s admitted to doing twice in the time we have been together. I just don't know what to do. I really do love him but should I leave him?


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Dimelo: "Is My Boyfriend’s Mom Trying to Kill Me with Her Food?"
By Pauline Campos | 12/23/2013 - 12:33

Dear Pauline,

I've come to the conclusion that my new boyfriend's mother hates me. He's invited me over for dinner on multiple occasions, and each time she has served me a meal made with nuts, to which I'm deathly allergic. She knows about my allergy—my boyfriend has reminded her time and again. On Thanksgiving, she once again extended an invitation to her home and my boyfriend practically begged me to come. I agreed, even stopping at the florist for a hostess gift. 


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