Dimelo: Love, Relationship & Sex Advice

Dimelo: Miley Cyrus' VMA Performance is Shocking to You? Really?
By Pauline Campos | 08/26/2013 - 13:37

There's no easy way to say this, so I may as well just put it plainly: y'all need to just get over Miley Cyrus and her performance at the Video Music Awards.

I normally don't watch TV because twitter watches it for me. And my entire timeline was filled with horror and embarrassment for the former Disney star. It seems little Hannah Montana is now showing the world that she can, in fact, do what she wants...and the world doesn't like it.

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Dimelo: Reclaiming my Spanish—With Help from a Panda
By Pauline Campos | 08/20/2013 - 10:07

I used to think in Spanish. I used to tell stories about Mickey Mouse and magic and witches flying on brooms and pause only to ask my tia "como se dice dragons?" before continuing with my tale. Today I think in English and am fully aware of the thought-process in my brain as I work to translate what I want to say from English to Spanish as I’m speaking.

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Dimelo: Flipping on the Light
By Pauline Campos | 08/15/2013 - 11:02

My job is to give advice on love and life and relationships. My blogs are full of essays and stories that are meant to empower women and young girls to see the beauty in their reflections and love themselves as they are. My business cards say Giver of Solicited Advice and I like to refer to myself as a body image cheerleader.

But that doesn't mean I don't have bad days. Because I do.

I think you need to know that.

I also wait out the bad days because I know tomorrow, I get to try again. You need to know that, too.

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Marc Anthony sings God Bless America
Dimelo: Being Patriotic (With a Tan)
By Pauline Campos | 08/06/2013 - 16:33

Okay. We need to talk.

First I want to know if you remember singing the words to the Star Spangled Banner in elementary school. I do. 

Now I want to know how you feel about the onslaught of recent headlines about Twitter getting twitchy because Marc Anthony may or may not rolled his R's while singing "God Bless America."

That's UnAmerican, says Twitter. He has an accent when he says the words, says Twitter. Why isn't Kesha performing instead, says Twitter.

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Dimelo: My 6-Year-Old Daughter Has a Blog
By Pauline Campos | 07/31/2013 - 11:15

I'm finally home from this year's amazing BlogHer conference in Chicago. I'm exhausted because attending the annual gathering of women bloggers is like trying to fit 50 years of wedded bliss into a four-day weekend: Amazing connections forged or strengthened. New friends. New information. New perspectives.

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Dimelo: Celebrate Who You Are
By Pauline Campos | 07/19/2013 - 11:15

Cultural identity is on the brain today.

I've been chatting about the topic with fellow bloggers Ananda Leeke and Dwana Delacerna, my co-hostesses for the MultiCulti Extravanganza, a party celebrating blogger diversity at this year’s BlogHer Conference in Chicago on July 25-27.

So I want to ask you, what is your own cultural identity and what do you celebrate most? And what part, if any, does ancestry play in the culture with which you identify?

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Dimelo: Open Letter to the Maker of a Jenni Rivera Piñata
By Pauline Campos | 07/08/2013 - 17:03

Dear Robert Martinez,

I come from a generation who grew up thinking that no child's birthday party was complete without at least one drunk Mexican sitting on a roof. We took our piñata entertainment portion of the festivities seriously. That meant blindfolds, spinning each kid three times and facing them the wrong way before sending them off with the baseball bat, while the drunk on the roof laughed hysterically as he mercilessly played with each child by baiting them into complacency before swiftly yanking the piñata out of reach.

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Dimelo: The Real Me (If I Was Interviewed by a Tabloid)
By Pauline Campos | 07/01/2013 - 15:49

Since I'm going to be giving you advice on All Things Personal, I figured it's only fair to share my own brand of Personal with you. Today, I'll illustrate with an interview...with myself.

Ready? Let’s pretend I’m famous and you give a damn about the craziness that is my life. You are at the grocery store and reaching for the latest trashy tabloid for a chance to play the Mystery Celeb Fat-Match game because you needed an ego boost.

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Dimelo: Facebook Can't Ruin Your Marriage—Only You Can
By Pauline Campos | 06/18/2013 - 16:32

Not too long ago, a friend brought up Facebook and how it was ruining her marriage. Remember, I'm the chick that keeps my iPhone in my bra so I can Instagram and update on the fly, so this was new territory. Was she getting too many Farmville requests from her beloved and she now wanted to unfriend him to protect her sanity?

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