Thank you for joining me another week to read my blog, “RAQ-C’s world”, where I share with you all my tips on how to be a fabulous modern day Latina from the inside out. I like to touch on it all from relationships, hot topics, fashion, health, spirituality, career and anything in between.
I have taken up a new habit of listening to audio books in my car lately. I spend so much time in the car and being that I am a radio personality you would think that all I do is listen to the radio, but I don’t. I like to listen to things that will help me expand my thinking and challenge me to become greater. It is my way of connecting with myself.
Speaking of connecting, my question to YOU is are you communicating or connecting?
Connecting as defined by the Oxford English Dictionary means:
"The ability to identify with people and relate to them in a way that increases your influence with them.”
One of my mentors said the following and it just made me open my eyes, “While I might be communicating with tens of thousands of people every day, outside of encounters with my immediate family and business team, I am not really connecting or fostering very many real relationships at all.”
How many of us can relate to this statement? I know I can.
Texting or a phone call isn’t the same as real life conversation and connection. Most humans love and yearn for connection but we live in a day in age where slowly but surely it seems like it’s disappearing. The key here is not letting it disappear. You have control over that.
I’ve noticed how many other people suffer from this same problem; mistaking the time they spend transmitting and receiving information with time spent making meaningful connections. Don’t get me wrong—both communication and connection are essential today, but don’t be fooled: communicating is not connecting. There is a big difference.
I believe that true connection happens face to face and heart to heart and in person. There is nothing better than looking at someone’s eyes when having a conversation.
Sharing the same physical space. Sharing an experience together. Even in business a conference call is not the same as having an in person conversation.
A wise person once said: there are only a dozen or two relationships that will take you to any level of success you desire.
If you ask Warren Buffett, Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg or Oprah Winfrey, each of them will tell you that no more than two dozen relationships contributed to their amazing achievements today.
You must connect not just communicate. These connections will help catapult you to where you need to be and more importantly it will help you build deep & meaningful relationships.