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Welcome to Latina.com's New Sex Column: Between the Sheets with Ann Marie

Ann Marie Rios burst onto the scene in 2001 and soon became a star in the world of adult entertainment. After taking a yearlong hiatus to "find herself sexually and become more comfortable with herself and her body," she's back in action and better than ever. In the summer of 2008, Rios, 28, was hired to host Playboy TV's 69 Sexy Things To Do Before You Die, a travel show catering couples who want to learn about the sexiest places to vacation around the world, a perfect gig for this bilingual hottie.
She currently hosts a radio show, "Ann Marie Rios's Private Calls" on Sirius & XM Radio for Playboy. Ann Marie knows her way around the bedroom and isn’t afraid to share some candid advice. She’s going to be joining us once a week here on Latina.com to answer your most intimate questions. So go on…ask her anything!
We sat down with Ann Marie to find out how this smart Latina vixen got involved in this industry and what she’s learned about sex and relationships.
You started in the adult film business when you were just 19 years old! How did that happen?
I completely fell into it. I got my real estate license and I was working at a firm and I started going crazy wearing stockings and a suit all day, every day. I was working nights and weekends and holidays and I had no life! My girl asked me to help her find a job dancing, and I saw an ad for nude modeling. Being so naive, I thought it was like Calvin Klein underwear or something. I convinced my girl to let me take her in and she ended up doing a movie with one of the guys in the office. They hit it off and he was cute and I wound up being in the film with her. I honestly didn’t even know what we were doing because I'd never seen an adult movie. I’d never even given a blow job. I know that sounds crazy!
What was the turning point when you realized that this was a really lucrative career choice and decided to pursue it full-throttle?
About two years into it, I started to notice more about myself sexually. Around that time, I signed my first contract to work just for one company and they put me on salary and sent me all over the country to talk to Howard Stern and do appearances. Then I signed a contract for Spice TV and hosted a show. It started out as just a supplement in between my real estate commissions. Then I realized I was making enough money and having fun and I didn’t even need to do real estate!
Your first movie was shot with a girlfriend—would you consider yourself bisexual?
I do like women, but I don’t often summon up enough courage to hit on them when I’m out. Girls are harder to read, so if you put yourself out there, it’s scarier. And I really enjoy women and being with women, however, if I were to ever one day settle down, it would be with a man and be more traditional.
You added your last name to your stage name in 2005, making your Latina roots more obvious. How has being a Latina in the industry changed over the years?
I really disliked being called Ann, so to clarify that Ann Marie was my name and to make sure people knew I was Latina I added a last name when I got back into the industry. The Latina niche is huge in the industry now! When I first started I could count the Latin girls in the business on one hand, and now they are flooding the gates. I definitely get love from my Latin people, mad love from the brothers—they tend to like my booty!
What does your family think about the whole situation? Do you hide it from them?
The first five years, I was able to hide it from them. My mom has
known for years that I worked for Playboy, but thought it was just a job. Then, a couple of years back, one of my ex-boyfriends printed up fliers of Peter North and I doing the nasty and duct-taped them all over my grandmother's home. He wrote them a letter and gave them my website and everything. Now she knows that I work in the adult entertainment industry, and she’s cool about it. She just doesn’t ask about it, but if I talk about it, she’ll listen. She’s not weird or judgmental and she really has my back. I can’t say the same about everyone in my family though; some of them are really religious.
What do you think is the most useful thing that you have learned about sex and relationships since you have started out in the job?
The absolute most important thing that I have learned is how important communication is. You need to talk to the person you are having sex with or the person you are in love with. So many people are afraid to talk to their partners, especially during and about sex. That’s one of my fortes! I am verbally aggressive. I talk a lot and I want you to talk back to me. I always try to tell people that nobody knows how to read minds, so if you can’t tell that person what you want, how can they give it to you?
Are you currently in a relationship?
No, I'm single. You cannot be truly in love with some one and still be having sex with other people—whether it is for money or work. So until I hang up my porn-star hat, there is no way I’d allow myself to get into a serious relationship.
So, you're a porn star who believes in monogamy?
Well, I believe you have to be on the same page as your partner. Maybe you're not into monogamy, but if you want to be swingers, be open, be honest. If you want to hang from the ceiling in body paint and glitter, then just do it! Who cares? There just has to be agreement and understanding.
Want to ask Ann Marie a question? Send her an e-mail at betweenthesheets@latina.com and she’ll get back to you as soon as she can.
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catgirl
08.07.2009 3:34pm |
I have no problem with a "love and sex" column, but I do NOT agree with seeking the advice from some porn star who decided at age 19 (omg, where was your mother?!!) to sell her body for money. Sorry, Latina but you have truly disappointed me this time. I have been a proud subscriber to your magazine for several years now and always leave several copies around my house so that my young daughters (10 and 14) will hopefully pick them up and see the many examples of strong Latinas. I am an educated woman who works hard every day to instill the values of education and self-respect not only to my own daughters, but also to many young women I come in contact with. Yes, let's be open to discussing relationships and sex--but from women we look up to.
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very proudlatina
07.29.2009 2:18pm |
Its women that are afraid of sex that should be reading this the most. Because the subject was a taboo in the homes of latin families that is why we have become a stereotype of person in the eyes of the world. If we knew more growing up we definately wouldn't be trying to be something or someone we are not. I am a woman in my 40's and am very proud to say I have an education a business and I am a very hard worker and knowing that this column is here for us women to share and read is a very good thing for the ones that are afraid to speak out to another human being. So with that said I would like to welcome AnnMarie to the magazine. Keep up all the great work.
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bohoglam
07.27.2009 8:28pm |
Relax mimi078! I don't think it's weird at all to include a sex column on latina.com. I think many of us are so desperate to not become the sexy Latina stereotype that we pretend like we don't even like sex. The truth is that sex isn't often talked about in our families growing up so we often get our information from stupid sources. What's wrong with getting some professional advice from someone who knows what she's doing? I have no problem saying that I would appreciate a nice forum where we can talk about sex openly as long as it's not vulgar. Women are having sex, let's not pretend it isn't happening. I'm all for teaching women, young and old, that if you're going to have sex, you have to learn to be selfish and make sure the guy isn't the only one having fun. I feel like Latinas don't put themselves first in the bedroom and maybe this column will be a reminder for us to do so. If you don't appreciate a little sex advice with all the other great news we get from here, from politics to great fashion, just don't read it. I'm tired of people thinking Latinas are not multi-dimensional women who have many interests. Stop trying to censor information just because you don't like it.
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mimi078
07.27.2009 5:13pm |
I am so ashamed of you for doing this, Latina. You were always such a great source for inspiring, strong Latinas and I could count on you to be a good, smart magazine that I could be proud of. This is your new addition to Latina.com? A porn star? Seriously? In case you haven't noticed in the comments section of your "Steppin' Out", there are lots of people who aren't here to read from their favorite magazine, they are here to try to sell things and get their fetish for spicy Latinas satisfied and adding this fluff isnt going to help the situation. This is what many people already think we are, a bunch of hot, stupid, sexual beings and instead of showing what we really have to offer, you are letting someone like this have a blog here-that's crazy! I don't want to read this crap and I don't want anyone else to either...for all of our sakes.
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