How Millennial Women Are Redefining the Blow Job

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This article originally appeared on Love Sujeiry. 

As women our mothers have programmed us to treat blow jobs in one of two ways: 1) something you only do with your husband or 2) something true ladies don’t do at all. These days, however, many 20-somethings not only go downtown, but they also find it sexually gratifying.

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When exactly did this old-aged taboo become an empowerment movement for millennial women everywhere? And what exactly are women loving the most about giving a BJ?

Nowadays giving a man head is less about degrading and minimizing a woman’s position (no pun intended) in the bedroom. Instead of millennials feeling ashamed and “dirty” about going downtown, it makes them feel like rockstars sexually. One 21-year-old shared that giving blowjobs emboldens her.

 

When I’m going down on my guy, and I can see how much he is enjoying what I’m doing and how good I am making him feel, it helps me feel more confident about doing other things in the bedroom.

Another finds that giving a BJ builds intimacy.

 

I love that when I’m going down on a guy, and he is in the moment with me, it feels like we are connected. We are both just enjoying each other. It’s intimate, it’s sexy and it’s a big turn on.

Then there’s the control. Although years ago blow jobs were seen as “that thing” only hookers, porn stars or women with “no home training” did, many women find it incredibly gratifying to not only please their partner but be dominant in the bedroom.

 

My favorite part about giving a guy head is the control I have over him. Things can go either really good or go left real quick. The ball is literally in my court – and I love that.

And this feeling is great for women. For years, whether it be through music, movies or television, women have often been depicted as having less power and less of a say regarding sex. But now that women are much more liberated, they’re not only giving head but also receiving oral sex. Men are much more willing to return the favor because they want to make sure their ladies are well taken care of!

 

Lately, the men that I’ve slept with have not just been willing to give and receive, but some of them offer to give and want nothing in return,” said another millennial. “It’s nice to see men more concerned with whether we are satisfied and not just in it for themselves.

But don’t give him a blow job just because you want him to lick your kitty cat. Do so because you like it.

 

I don’t need a guy to go down on me or try and return the favor,” said a brazen 28-year-old. “Turning him on and the act in itself turns me on sometimes more than him. I do it because I genuinely enjoy it, not because I want something out of it.

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It seems millennials are completely redefining the act of giving blow jobs. And they don’t feel a bit of remorse. Instead, they are living loudly and sexually on their own terms and own every bit of it. As one millennial concluded, “Blow jobs are just one helluva pre-game before a big party. So just enjoy it and don’t think too hard about it!”