No Chaser
By Sujeiry Gonzalez | 05/13/2010 - 11:00

I've never been the type of woman to chase a least not in the beginning of a relationship. Sure, I've called a man while drinking at 4am because the relationship has gone awry. And yes, I have even written numerous emails to "express myself" when the man in question runs into his cave, refusing to return my late night phone calls and texts. But I’ve only yelled “Pick up!!!” at the top of my lungs to those special men who have affected me greatly.  Those are the men who have taken a little piece of my heart and my pepa™.

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The Numbers Game
By Sujeiry Gonzalez | 05/11/2010 - 14:00

Winking at someone online doesn't always guarantee success. Heck! Sometimes a wink is all you get. That emoticon in your Inbox can quickly become the only communication between you and the profile cutie that caught your eye, which makes online dating more of a numbers game than anything else.

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Dolores dice...Arroz con Pizza
By Dolores | 05/10/2010 - 16:17

Dear Dolores:

I’m a Puerto Rican dating a non-Latino. Things are going pretty well, except at the dinner table. He only eats pizza, chicken or pasta. When he comes to family dinners he looks at the food in disgust and hardly touches the pernil and arroz con gandules. It makes me feel bad because my family’s always asking me why he doesn’t eat. Could food ruin our relationship?

—Ayúdame in CT

Dear Ayúdame:

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Dolores dice...Rock the Cradle of Love
By Dolores | 05/07/2010 - 15:00

Dear Dolores:

My boyfriend just broke up with me because of our age difference; he didn’t want people to think he was robbing the cradle. I’m 17 and he’s 35. But now he tells me that if we get back together I have to change the way I dress and stop plucking my eyebrows, wearing makeup and going out with my amigas. I don’t know what to do because I love him very much.

—Confundida in Houston

Dear Confundida:

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False Expectations
By Sujeiry Gonzalez | 05/04/2010 - 14:00

Most men don't have realistic expectations of the women they can actually seduce. In all actuality, the 45-year-old at the club thinks it's his duty to grind on the pretty, young thang just because she has on a miniskirt. This disregard for what a woman wants is simply incomprehensible and honestly, really irritating! I mean, can you please pull up your pants, articulate and be younger than my father if you’re going to approach me?

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Dolores dice...Fat Fatale
By Dolores | 05/03/2010 - 14:32

Dear Dolores:

I have been with my boyfriend for seven months and I can honestly say I love him to death. He recently asked me to marry him, but a couple of weeks later he changed his mind. He told me I was not the one he wanted to plan the future with because of my weight. I was devastated. He’s 24 years old, 6-foot-1 and weighs about 300 pounds. I’m 20, 5-foot-5, weigh 160 and I’m considered quite attractive. He said that if I don’t lose weight he’d leave me. What should I do?

—RGV Chica on the Net

Dear RGV:

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By Sujeiry Gonzalez | 04/29/2010 - 14:00

Setting up an online dating profile usually leads to an increase of suitors. Unfortunately, most of the suitors aren't really that suitable. Only 48 hours into OkCupid and I had garnered the attention of a gaggle of old geezers who thought I was "beautiful" and wanted to "chat". And did a mention a woman named Peaches peeked at my profile and send me an electronic wink?

Yes, online dating had already proven to be...interesting.  But I wasn't giving up quite that easily! Instead, I took matters into my own hands and began searching through profiles.

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Ready for Love
By Sujeiry Gonzalez | 04/20/2010 - 14:00

While throwing back birthday drinks, I vowed that at 32 I would stir up my romantic life. I hadn't had a date since Generous Stranger, and that date was more like an instantaneous meeting of two attractive and hungry souls than an outing.  Now more than ever I want to be wined and dined before dawn. I want to be picked up and dropped off at a respectable hour, called two days later, and do it all over again. It is time, ladies, for this lady to meet herself a man that is going to commit and love her reciprocally and unconditionally.

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Happy Birthday to Me!
By Sujeiry Gonzalez | 04/15/2010 - 14:00

To me, birthdays are a big deal.  I have to celebrate it on that very day no matter what day of the week or what special events coincide. So what if it's a cousins wedding? It's my birthday! April 16th is whose graduation? Sorry, I can't make it. It's my birthday!

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Living for Today
By Sujeiry Gonzalez | 04/13/2010 - 18:26

So far, 2010 has been really rough. In early February, my ex was violently killed, and on March 26th my Tia Argentina passed away after enduring a 3-month coma. All this tragedy has been devastating; but somehow it has also pushed me to release some of my fears and self-imposed limitations. I find myself wanting to take more chances. I find myself asking: "Why leave for tomorrow what I can do today?"

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