10 Things That Are Ruining Your Sex Life

From bills to babies, you have plenty of things to worry about on a daily basis—your sex life shouldn’t be one of them. But it is. You feel like you’re in a slump when it comes to sex, and you can’t seem to figure out why. Well we have the solution—and it may be more minor than you think. Here are the everyday problems that could be blocking your bedroom action.

1. Electronics in the bedroom

Electronics in the bedroom

If you have a television in your bedroom you’re probably not getting much play between the sheets! This goes for almost any electronic device. We find it so difficult to turn ourselves off to the outside world that it becomes just as difficult to get turned on by our partner. Removing the distractions from the room should help you ramp up your sex life.

2. Birth Control

Birth control

The pill is supposed to prevent you from getting pregnant, not from having sex altogether! According to Fitness, taking oral contraceptives has been known to lower libido. If this sounds strangely familiar, you may want to talk to your doctor about switching to another form of birth control so you can get back to your favorite steamy pastime. 

3. Boring bedroom habits

Boring bedroom habits

People are creatures of habit—and unless you’re in the habit of surprising your partner every night with a new sexual position, chances are you need to shake things up. Get out of the bedroom, get out of your head, and seduce your man in a public place, with sultry lingerie or by finally climbing on top. It doesn’t matter what you decide to do as long as it’s something new!

4. Falling asleep too early

Falling asleep too early

Planning to stay in and catch some extra Zzzzz’s this weekend? You could be missing out on some sexually charged time with your partner. A 2012 study suggests that a woman’s sexual desire peaks as late as 11pm on a Saturday night. So if you’re wondering why you’re not feeling more frisky, work on your Saturday night stamina. Coffee, anyone? 

5. Not sleeping at all

Not sleeping at all

All right, now that we’ve convinced you to commit to staying up late on Saturday nights to liven up your love life, we’re here to tell you not to deprive yourself of sleep every night. We work hard. We take care of the kids. We cook and clean. How are we supposed to find the time for some REM-worthy rest? If you want to work on your sex life, you need to find the time. One article claims that chronic sleep deprivation (less than six hours of sleep per night for some adults and less than seven hours of sleep for most) can lower levels of testosterone—the sex drive hormone—in both men and women.   

6. Sloppiness


Here’s a hint, guys, the pungent smell of filthy socks mixed with stale pizza doesn’t do a lot for our libido. It’s hard to keep things interesting in the bedroom if you’re constantly wondering when a rat is going to emerge from that pile of dirty laundry and gnaw on your toes. A little cleaning can go a long way, because no one wants to sleep with a sloppy partner. Besides, if they can’t keep their place clean, what else aren’t they washing?  

7. Not enough exercise

Not enough exercise

It’s true, endorphins do make you happy—in life and in bed. A study at the University of Texas found that women who exercised for a mere 20 minutes before viewing erotica were more easily aroused. So next time you consider skipping your post-work trip to the gym, think again. Your sex life will thank you.

8. Watching too many fantasy couples

Watching too many fantasy couples

Have you ever found yourself mourning the fact that making out doesn’t help you achieve an orgasm the way it seems to do for your favorite heroines?  Sadly, we have too. Even though we know it’s fiction, we still find ourselves self-sabotaging our sex lives with feelings of inadequacy compared to what we see on the screen. Do yourself a favor and pull away from the fantasy and immerse yourself in the reality. If you let it, it can be just as great all on its own!

9. Smoking


If you don’t have enough reasons to stop smoking, here’s another one. One of the worst things you can do for your sex life is regularly light up. According to Shape magazine, smoking negatively affects vein health, which can reduce sensitivity and your chance at an orgasm. So on the way to the bedroom tonight, toss those cigarettes in the trash!

10. Biting criticisms

Biting criticisms

Chew with your mouth closed! Sit up straight! Stop breathing so loud! You’ve probably heard one or more of these throughout your life. If you’re a nagger, you might want to reconsider for the sake of your sex life. People want to feel desired, and constantly pestering your partner about his imperfections isn’t the right way to spread the love. Start with please and thank you, and remember that to get a better sex life you have to give something in return!